How Do I Know If I’m Ready To Share My Testimony?

Dear Ellen,

I’ve been asked to share my testimony about my experience with same-sex attraction in front of a group of young adults. I’m excited, but also nervous about being so vulnerable. How can I know if I’m ready for something like this? Do you have any advice for navigating this process?

Sincerely,
Nervous but Willing

Dear Nervous but Willing,

What an incredible opportunity! I know firsthand how thrilling it can be to share about God’s presence and providence in your life—yet how exposing it can feel at the same time.

The fact that you’re even considering this speaks volumes about your humility, vulnerability, and devotion to the Lord. It also reflects the strength and safety of your marriage and family that you have their support as you navigate this.

Are You Ready to Share?

🔹 Check your heart’s readiness – Sometimes, in our eagerness to meet a need, we push ourselves to share before we’re emotionally prepared. If sharing would leave you feeling raw and exposed, it may not be time yet. Trust that God will make it clear if this is the right moment.

🔹 Pray for guidance – Ask God to lead you in what to share, how to share it, and when. He will give you clarity on the themes, tone, and timing through His Spirit.

🔹 Recognize the impact of your testimony – Younger generations are drawn to authenticity and vulnerability more than ever before. Your testimony has the potential to speak deeply to them, normalize conversations about same-sex attraction in God’s Kingdom, and create space for others to connect with God more deeply.

🔹 Trust God’s story, not just your words – I find comfort in praying before I speak, asking God to make me a vessel for His story. Trust that He will guide you in what needs to be said—and keep at bay anything unnecessary.

A Message for the Next Generation

The younger people in our churches are hungry for real conversations about real struggles. By using clear and honest language—terms like “same-sex attraction,” “gay,” or “sexual identity”—you open doors that have too often been closed or ignored in Christian spaces.

This kind of honesty fosters trust, safety, and connection—helping young hearts draw closer to God.

I’ll be praying for you as you prepare for this moment. God has equipped you, and I believe He will use your story in powerful ways.

In Him,
Ellen