Does the Church Even Care About the Harm It Has Caused?

Dear Ellen,

I grew up in a Christian home, knowing I was queer, but felt deeply ashamed when I discovered my parents’ efforts to prevent homosexuality. I tried for years to change, which led to self-hatred, addiction, and mental health struggles. I’ve since left the church, found healing, and reconnected with faith, but the pain of what I went through still lingers. I hope ministries like Strength in Weakness will realize the harm being done and find a better way forward. But I doubt it will make a difference. I doubt you even care.

Sincerely,
A Survivor

Dear Survivor,

Thank you for your email, and thank you for your courage and vulnerability in sharing this part of your story with me. I absolutely do care.

Unfortunately, your experience is not uncommon, and I know that many have been wounded by the pain, fear, and misguidedness of others.

You have a tremendous warrior spirit in wanting to protect others from going through what you did—I deeply admire and appreciate that. I feel very similarly. This is why our mission is dedicated to education, awareness, and support—so that those who are afraid or uninformed can see this topic more through God’s eyes, with Jesus’ love leading the way.

Our goal is not to impose our beliefs on anyone; we believe in the free will that God gives each person, and we wholeheartedly support everyone’s right to pursue happiness however they choose.

We mourn with you and others who have been so deeply hurt by those who were supposed to represent God’s love. I know that the pain you experienced is not a reflection of God’s love—but a reflection of imperfect humans.

We are so glad that you have found healing and reconnection with faith. Thank you again for your courage, vulnerability, and strength in sharing your story.

In Him,
Ellen